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Mar. 5th, 2020 10:15 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
brin_bellway[cw: illness, death, venting]
"we", I say
even if "we" "time" "the" "household" "lockdown" "correctly"
this is eliding over a *lot* of bullshit, and I am beginning to understand just how much bullshit it is going to be
I figure the ascending order of difficulty here in getting everyone on the same page is Mom --> Dad --> Brother, and I just had a talk with Mom and even *she* was a massive pain.
she clings to anything that suggests things aren't going to be that bad (do you want to bet your life?), she has that parent-brainwashing cares-about-my-life-but-not-hers thing (I tried to bootstrap her into caring about her own survival by pointing out how much it would suck for me if she died, with *maybe* partial success)
Look, I'm not saying we should lock down *today*. Even I think that's too soon for us. But this is precisely why we need to have these arguments *now*, so that when the time comes we've already made our decision and we can just do it.
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We might end up with a staggered system, with different thresholds for at least some of:
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Mom thinks the three of us (that is, not Brother: he keeps himself a little more separate) should come to an agreement first and *then* talk to Brother about what we've come up with. I worry that shutting him out of the initial discussion will just make him even less likely to adhere to quarantine.
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(...although, if I *can* get Mom and Dad but not Brother on the same page, maybe *they* can hole up in their bedroom.)
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(Interestingly, the 90% cancer-related figure that sticks in *Mom's* head is *not* the 90% chance of not having cancer given the tumor (which did not happen), but rather the 90% chance that, *having* this cancer, it would not recur within 10 years (and indeed, it did not recur).)
"we", I say
even if "we" "time" "the" "household" "lockdown" "correctly"
this is eliding over a *lot* of bullshit, and I am beginning to understand just how much bullshit it is going to be
I figure the ascending order of difficulty here in getting everyone on the same page is Mom --> Dad --> Brother, and I just had a talk with Mom and even *she* was a massive pain.
she clings to anything that suggests things aren't going to be that bad (do you want to bet your life?), she has that parent-brainwashing cares-about-my-life-but-not-hers thing (I tried to bootstrap her into caring about her own survival by pointing out how much it would suck for me if she died, with *maybe* partial success)
Look, I'm not saying we should lock down *today*. Even I think that's too soon for us. But this is precisely why we need to have these arguments *now*, so that when the time comes we've already made our decision and we can just do it.
---
We might end up with a staggered system, with different thresholds for at least some of:
- Parents stop working
- I continue to work but hole up in my bedroom whenever I'm not working (my brother is pure back-of-house staff while I do both back and front, which means that of the two of us only I come into direct contact with customers and I am therefore a bigger contagion risk than he is)
- I stop working
- Brother holes up whenever he's at home (god, good luck getting him to go along with that)
- Brother stops working
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Mom thinks the three of us (that is, not Brother: he keeps himself a little more separate) should come to an agreement first and *then* talk to Brother about what we've come up with. I worry that shutting him out of the initial discussion will just make him even less likely to adhere to quarantine.
---
(...although, if I *can* get Mom and Dad but not Brother on the same page, maybe *they* can hole up in their bedroom.)
---
(Interestingly, the 90% cancer-related figure that sticks in *Mom's* head is *not* the 90% chance of not having cancer given the tumor (which did not happen), but rather the 90% chance that, *having* this cancer, it would not recur within 10 years (and indeed, it did not recur).)
