if you want something done right you have to do it yourself

[brin_bellway]

[cw: venting, unsanitary]


nothing motivates you to wash the dishes quite like knowing that if you don't get there fast enough your brother will wash them, and he will wash them *very badly*, and then he will put them away half an hour later while they're still wet so that you don't get a chance to inspect them, and then the next thing you know there'll be visible bits of gunk on the fork you just pulled out of the cutlery drawer and your pasta will be covered in flecks of four-day-old curry from the pot it was boiled in

for some unfathomable reason literally nobody else in this household thinks this outcome is bad, everyone (including but not limited to my brother) thinks I'm making a big deal over nothing, so I'm pretty sure my only remaining feasible option is to beat him to the dishwashing sink whenever possible and count the days until he moves out or at least resumes full-time work (and therefore has fewer opportunities to wash our dishes)

(well, I say count the *days* until he moves out: he doesn't have a firm date yet but it's something measured in *years*)

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[thedarlingone]

Oh dear lord. I don't even think of myself as having food poisoning phobia; maybe I'm incorrect, I know I definitely still have odd bunches of the wiring where I assume that what I feel is what Any Right-Thinking Person should feel, but that's just *yucky*.

(Washing dishes well by hand takes longer than my back will put up with, which is why I am always willing to pay extra for an apartment with a dishwasher, so I can feel confident things will be sanitary. Not that that's a relevant solution for you, more just... sympathetic noises? Like how do people *live* with gunk on their forks, let alone *old food in their new food* jesus fucking murphy. Wow. *headshake* I can sooort of see it with your brother, because so many cis guys have that wiring where they either ignore or don't perceive A Dirt, and then they fuck up common household chores because they think a vague swipe with a sponge is "washing" and sort of making a star pattern in the middle of the carpet is "vacuuming", but one expects parents who have to be at least in their 40s to have a baseline of "here is what cleanliness looks like".)

(I haven't taken my meds or eaten yet this morning so this comment is nowhere near as well thought out or as... assumption-checked as usual, sorry about that, happy to accept corrections as usual)